Think it through...

Just what is abstinence anyway?

According to the W.A.I.T. program, abstinence means means to wait to have sex until marriage (and yes, oral sex is SEX!) Call it chastity or call it sexual abstinence, both provide full protection for your future!

Don't be folled by "It's no big deal", "love makes it okay", or "It won't happen to me."

First of all, something that has the power to create another human life is a big deal.

Second, real love honors, respects and protects.

Third, three million teens this year didn't think they would get an STD but they did. One million didn't think they would get pregnant but they did.

Would you follow those same millions if they told you, "Just do it?" Of course not, because you want a future with promise and without regrets. I bet your future spouse would like that for you too.

Why should I wait?

Waiting gives you freedom to:

  • Live your age
  • Follow your goals and dreams
  • Focus on self-growth
  • Experience REAL love
Waiting gives you freedom from:
  • STD's (remember some carry a death sentence)
  • Unplanned pregnancy
  • Abortion
  • Emotional pain
  • Detours in life goals
  • Poverty
  • Destructive relationships
  • Doing something you'll regret later

How far is actually too far?

Physically speaking, "fooling around" is meant to prepare your body for intercourse. Your body wasn't made with a place to easily "put on the brakes."

Make it easier on yourself and set boundaries! Generally, anything beyond a short, sweet kiss can make your body think you are going places. As yourself this, "What would my future spouse want me to be doing?" He/she is out there right now...think about it!

I'm getting a lot of pressure. How do I say "NO"?

If your love interest tries pressuring you to "redefine" your physical boundaries...then be "N.I.C.E."

"No" - Actually say the word "no." Things like "I don't know," may lead the person to just try harder because it sounds like "maybe," to him/her.

"I" statements - Tell the person how you feel, and the reason you won't. The person is less likely to get defensive when you say something like "I am waiting until I am married."

"Create an alternative" - Suggest another activity that doesn't go against your standards.

"Execute your plan" - Stand firm and get away from the pressure situation.

You can talk with someone at the Cleveland Pregnancy Center by calling (440) 243-2520.

©Cleveland Pregnancy Center, 2003